Children, Because Nothing Matters More To Our Future

kidsThis post promises to be different. As I sit down to write this I'm not entirely sure which direction it will take, but I feel a very strong NEED to write it. While almost all of my previous posts are centered around the sharing of knowledge, mostly on the subject of social media, this one won't be. All I can say, before getting into the meat of what I want to say, is that when it comes to social marketing, it's almost always a good thing to let people know the real you. This, is the real me.

Friday, December the 14th, 2012 the boogeyman, armed with 3 guns and hundreds of rounds of ammunition walked into Sandy Hook elementary school and opened fire on innocent children and adults, of the former, 20 lost their lives, even before they started.

Most people who know me know that I'm pretty stoic. I'm not an emotional person. I do love life and I show it but I'm not one to get teary eyed, not much "bothers" me. This horrific act of violence did in fact, bother me. The day of and the weekend that followed was very distracted for me as I found it hard to focus on my work. All I could think about were the innocent children, with thoughts of Christmas morning on their minds, being murdered.

I'm not ashamed to say that as I write this I'm fighting back tears as I think of my own children. I don't get into it much but my wife and I were foster parents for almost 7 years with 74 children living in our home at one point or another. We've adopted 3 beautiful children with others that we still, after all these years, consider our own. In fact, we flew in 2 of them for Christmas this year, arriving just last night. I said all that to say that children are precious, they are the future and when they are taken from us, a piece of our future goes with them.

I'm a Christian and as such I refuse to be bitter toward God, asking him why He let something like this happen. If you're a believer then you understand it wasn't Gods doing, but the evil within man. I've heard the question asked, then why didn't God stop it from happening? I don't claim to know what Gods motives are but I can't help but think that growing up in Heaven is better than growing up in a world full of people that have no issues with taking the lives of innocent children.

I don't think anybody would argue that our country isn't the greatest it's ever been. There has been and continues to be a decline and even though I love my country and would live no place else, I yearn to be on the rise again. But how can that happen when there are people who put an end to our future before they have even had the chance to grow up?

I don't know what the solution is but as a parent I can't help but feel that it is our fault. If each one of us spent the time to sweep off our own front porch before worrying about the front porch of others I think our country would be in a much better place. As a parent, it is our jobs to ensure that our children understand that they are to leave the world around them a better place than when they entered it then, and only then, I feel that things would start to get better.

I do put a lot on us parents, our children are learning from the world instead of us, this past Friday we saw firsthand what the world is all about. Do you really want the world to teach our children? I think I know the answer, but then I ask the question, "Then why are you not teaching your children to love others? To do what must be done to leave the world a better place. Why aren't you teaching your children to lend a helping hand whenever it is needed? Why aren't you teaching your children to put others first? Why, why, why?"

I'm not trying to preach at you here, I'm not perfect but I do try to teach my own children about the evils of the world, of our country, and what they can do to help bring love for others back into it. There is no room for hate of any kind, as is there is no room for indifference. I'm a firm believer that you can't stand in the middle on this. You can't just sit back and watch it go by, each one of us has a role in the future. I leave you with these two questions:

"What is your role in the future?" and,

"What is your role in teaching your children how to love, respect and help others?"


  1. Jim Radogna on December 20, 2012 at 6:28 pm

    Beautifully written David. Thank you.

    • DavidJohn_son on December 20, 2012 at 7:07 pm

      Thank you Jim, there is a lot more than can be said here and I'm sure I'll be writing more!

  2. Stan Esposito on December 20, 2012 at 6:50 pm

    Thank you for a well written post from the heart. I am a father of four. I was at my youngest Son’s kindergarten Christmas play on 12-14. I came home just as the story broke.
    I have been distracted and upset for the entire time since. This has bought out the best in us and the worst of some.
    I have been watching my 5 year old closely lately. In the last week I have hugged him way more then ever. Now I am letting him teach me. He loves me because I am his Dad. He has an unconditional love for his friends. None of his friends are Democrats or Republicans. He has no idea about race he loves his classmates just the same. A 5 year old accepts you for you. He does not question authority.
    I thank those angels from Connecticut for opening my eyes. My kids are working on some type of ornament to honor and never forget them. Every year for the rest of my life I will see the reminder and hopefully it becomes a reminder of how far we have come since that day in 2012.

    • DavidJohn_son on December 20, 2012 at 7:10 pm

      Well said Stan. Like I said in the post. our kids are our future and it sounds like you are doing your part to ensure that our country becomes as great as it once was. I do like the ornament idea. In fact we are going to make one as well. One of my favorite things about putting up the Christmas tree each year is in remembering what each ornament means, it's time we put up a new one. Thank you for stopping by.

  3. Nancy Simmons on December 20, 2012 at 8:54 pm

    Very well said…thanks so much for calling each and every one of us to task… Every day is important to work on the molding of all our children are to become… It should be our most important concern.

    • DavidJohn_son on December 21, 2012 at 9:30 am

      I totally agree Nancy. If each one of us were to ensure that our children understand and are equipped to make a real difference, then things like this wouldn't happen. In my opinion it all boils down to instilling good Christian ethics into our children.

  4. Tom Wiegand on December 21, 2012 at 9:34 am

    Very well written, my friend. Perhaps the question to ask and answer here is: "What does God want us to learn from this massacre?" These children were all 6 and 7 years of age. As believers we can only believe all these innocent children are in heaven with God right now. The media and many public officials now have gone so far as to label specific people within NRA terrorists and, sadly, even publicly called for their massacre. God doesn't want anyone massacred, most especially children. Nevertheless, man's law has supported the massacre of over 60 million of God's innocent unborn children since that law was made by man. Man's law has removed God from schools to appease the voting block of atheists.

    Now, to the question answered — let God Himself answer it. John 15: 1-17: "“I am the true vine, and my Father is the vine grower. He takes away every branch in me that does not bear fruit, and everyone that does he prunes so that it bears more fruit. You are already pruned because of the word that I spoke to you. Remain in me, as I remain in you. Just as a branch cannot bear fruit on its own unless it remains on the vine, so neither can you unless you remain in me. I am the vine, you are the branches. Whoever remains in me and I in him will bear much fruit, because without me you can do nothing. Anyone who does not remain in me will be thrown out like a branch and wither; people will gather them and throw them into a fire and they will be burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask for whatever you want and it will be done for you. By this is my Father glorified, that you bear much fruit and become my disciples. As the Father loves me, so I also love you. Remain in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and remain in his love.

    I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and your joy may be complete. This is my commandment: love one another as I love you. No one has greater love than this, to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you. I no longer call you slaves, because a slave does not know what his master is doing. I have called you friends, because I have told you everything I have heard from my Father. It was not you who chose me, but I who chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit that will remain, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name he may give you. This I command you: love one another.”

    "WITHOUT ME YOU CAN DO NOTHING" is truth, is fact, is required. We were created for eternity, yet we choose to dismiss God's laws for false god laws man creates to satisfy their sins. NOTHING man comes up with will fix man's law. We must return to God's law so HE, and only He can restore and save us from our selves. "Where was/is God?" Waiting lovingly to be heard and obeyed.

    You and your most wonderful bride know full well that, at a minimum, some of the 74 foster children you cared for, could have been massacred by abortion, but, by God's Will they lived and loved. We must fix man's laws so that they align with God's law. With Him everything is possible, while "without me you can do nothing."

    • DavidJohn_son on December 21, 2012 at 10:57 am

      Our schools are missing, and our children are worse off for it, the teaching of good christian values. But, since everybody is bent on the separation of church and state it's up to the parents to instill values, ethics and love for others into their children. I can't see anybody, even if they aren't a christian, disagreeing with the idea that the instilling of Christian values, and not the warped ones of a small church group that I shall not name, is a bad thing.

      I truly am saddened by all of this and all I can do is use it to strengthen my own resolve and teach my children love others even more deeply.