It’s easy to lie. It’s even easier to lie to yourself. To convince yourself that you never wanted whatever it was that you wanted in the first place. Those are the kinds of lies that limit your life. They rob you of your dreams. They take away your future and replace them with a present that you’re stuck trying to convince yourself is good enough.
If your present circumstances don’t match where you’d thought you’d be by now, it’s easier to convince yourself that you never wanted those things, or that where you are is okay. Those are the kinds of lies that limit your reach. They prevent you from going that extra mile. They anchor you so firmly in the present that you’re unable to even hope for something better. Why? Because hope shines a light on what went wrong, it illuminates all your wrong turns, and all the lies you’ve told yourself.
Honesty. Be truthful even though it hurts. Sometimes telling the truth is scary. We lie to get out of trouble. We lie to STAY out of trouble. We lie to get what we want. We lie to get OTHERS what we think they deserve. We lie to ourselves to quiet our regrets.
Today I want you to endeavor towards honesty. Honesty in everything that you do. Honesty with others and honesty with yourself. The easier it becomes to slide into a lie with others, the easier it becomes to lie to yourself. Above all, stop convincing yourself that your present circumstances are good enough. That’s the big lie we tell ourselves. The lie that gets us off the hook. The lie that makes us feel better about missing the mark.
Other Lies We Tell Ourselves
1. If I could just ______, then I could _______.
This is another lie that robs you of your future. You place your potential achievements outside yourself and thus outside of your reach.
- If I could speak as well as Steven, then I could sell more widgets and live the life that I want.
- If my boss understood how hard I work, then I could get that raise and buy that car my wife has been looking at.
I’ve written on this topic before. Everything you need is right there inside you; you’re 100% responsible for where you’re at on the road to your dreams.
2. I can’t overcome my past mistakes.
This is another self-limiting lie that can be tough to overcome. This is the lie that tells you, “you’re not good enough.” It says you that you lack whatever it is that you need to overcome a past failure. It stops you from even trying, and that’s a shame.
3. The barrier to entry is just too significant.
I’m only going to say this once so listen up. If the dream is worth having, then the dream is worth doing. Don’t convince yourself that the barriers are too great, just grab a larger battering ram.[click_to_tweet tweet=” If the dream is worth having, then the dream is worth doing. Don’t convince yourself that the barriers are too great, just grab a bigger battering ram.” quote=” If the dream is worth having, then the dream is worth doing. Don’t convince yourself that the barriers are too great, just grab a bigger battering ram.”]
4. If only I had ______, then I’d be happy.
Happiness isn’t a thing. Happiness isn’t a person. Happiness is understanding that you’re in control of what makes you happy. Happiness is an inward manifestation projected outward. You create it.
5. If I fail, I’m doomed.
No, you’re not. Failure is the best teacher you have. You can learn all you want from another person, a book, or even a podcast, but until you go out there and do it and fail, you’ll never learn anything. Failure is all in how you look at it. You define both your successes and your failures.
What other lies are you telling yourself? What other lies are preventing you from achieving the life you want?
Be honest with yourself, and it becomes easier to be honest with others.