The holes we dig within ourselves do more damage to our self-worth than ten people with shovels could ever do. If that isn’t problematic enough, we then seek for ways to fill those holes outside ourselves. The problem with that is the fact that all happiness and well-being comes from within. From the same place you’ve been digging your holes.
In other words, joy isn’t the fruit of your labor or a gift from another person. It’s the very essence of who you are. You only need to acknowledge the idea that your internal struggles can’t be fixed in external ways.
There is wisdom inside you, but many times we chase a goal, a salary, a house, or some other ideal that we feel will fill the holes within. We start to feel empty because you can only dig so many holes before the very foundation of who we are is weakened to the point of collapse.
The struggle is real, true enough. But the struggle isn’t external. It’s internal. When we place our happiness outside us, then we give away our power to find the joy we so desperately crave.
To find what’s always been there you must first stop digging those internal holes, holes that require something external to fill them back up. How many times can you fill a void within with something external before you’re no longer yourself?
You can’t change other people, you can’t change how the world operates, but you can change how you react to others and the world around you. Stand fast to who are and who you want to be. Understand that it’s not the actions of the world around you that dictates your level of inner peace but the meanings that you assign to them.
You’re the culmination of your thoughts, your reactions, and your inner musings. Reflect on how you should react, get in the habit of slowing down the time between stimulus and response and remind yourself that only you have the power to dictate your inner joy. You alone hold that power. Stop chasing and start filling in your holes.